🌼3 Bad Habits Of Unsuccessful People(AMAZING REVELATION)
Avoid them if you want to live a better life
Everyone wants to know the habits of successful people.
That’s why many YouTube videos about morning routines have millions of views. When we admire someone, we often want to emulate the habits that got them from point A to B.
The problem? Very few people pay attention to the bad habits that prevent us from succeeding. The ones that stray us away from our goals, instead of towards them. And thus, it only becomes a matter of time before we’re tired, unmotivated, and burnt out.
Here are several bad habits of unsuccessful people to avoid at all costs. Because like Darren Hardy said, “the first step toward change is awareness. If you want to get from where you are to where you want to be, become aware of the choices that lead you away from your desired destination.”
Not Caring About The Lives Of Others
In How To Win Friends & Influence People, Dale Carnegie discusses a proven formula for building strong relationships. “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
Look, it doesn’t matter if you want to build a six-figure business or learn a new language. It’s difficult to achieve your goals without a strong support network.
There have been several moments throughout my life when I felt like giving up. However, having someone by my side helped me to keep going when times got tough. And for that, I’m grateful.
If you want to be more successful, take a genuine interest in the lives of others. Remember their hobbies and favorite foods. Ask if you can do anything to make your loved ones happy. As Amy Rees Anderson writes in Forbes:
“The more a person knows that you genuinely care about them, the more they will, in turn, move heaven and earth to help you with the things you want.”
Saying Yes Too Much
Many of us struggle with rejection.
We’ll agree to something because we don’t want to jeopardize our relationships. Nor do we want to let our friends, family, and co-workers down. But sadly, saying “yes” too much can be harmful.
The reason? When we’re focused on other people, it’s difficult to devote time to making progress towards our own goals. As Georgia Witkin, Ph.D. writes in Psychology Today:
“You can’t be everything to everyone — the price is too high. Besides, if you don’t pace yourself, you’ll have too many stress symptoms to say “yes” even when you want to. So, if you want to honor your commitments and do them right, make fewer commitments.”
Avoid the immediate urge to say “yes” to every request. Instead, take a few moments to decide if agreeing to something will make you happy or help you to make progress toward your goals.
To be clear, I’m not saying to stop caring for loved ones. That’s not the point. Rather, it’s a good idea to add yourself to the long list of people you care about.
Not Spending Time In The Present Moment
One of my friends is a popular YouTuber. Let’s call him Steve. One day, he phoned me in the middle of the night because he wasn’t sure if he’d make enough money from YouTube to cover the rising cost of living.
“I’m nervous about not paying my bills,” said Steve. “My landlord recently raised the rent by 30%. I spend so much time worrying each day that I’m not making videos anymore. I haven’t uploaded new content in three months. It’s paralyzing.”
Steve’s story sounded familiar. I used to feel the same way when I became a writer. Back then, I was constantly worry about the future, so I rarely had enough mental energy to write in the present moment.
I paused for a second. My mind was racing at a thousand miles per hour as it tried to find a solution. Then, I told Steve a beautiful quote from Michael Jordan that helped my past self:
“Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.”
I love that quote because it reminds me that success is like a snowball. It takes momentum and hard work to start. There will be obstacles in the way of success. But once you roll the snowball in the right direction, it doesn’t take long to see meaningful results.
Next, I told Steve that it’s impossible to predict the future. But if he worked hard in the present moment and uploaded lots of videos, his chances of making more money in the future would increase. And sure enough, that’s exactly what happened.
“True long-term thinking is goal-less thinking,” writes James Clear in Atomic Habits. “It’s not about any single accomplishment. It is about the cycle of endless refinement and continuous improvement. Ultimately, it is your commitment to the process that will determine your progress.”
If you want to be more successful, focus on habits to avoid, as well as ones to emulate. Build a support network. Be prepared to say “no.” It’s also a good idea to live in the present moment, instead of worrying about the future.
Try to make a bit of progress toward your goals each day. Because when you put one foot in front of the other, it’ll only be a matter of time before you reach your destination. Barack Obama said it best:
“If you’re walking down the right path and you’re willing to keep walking, eventually you’ll make progress.”
CONTRIBUTED BY Matt Lillywhite
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