🌻7 Psychological Superpowers That Will Help You Build An Outstanding Life (PLEASE DIGEST THIS)
Level up your mind and your life will follow.
99% of what you accomplish in life springs from your mind.
Putting in extra hours, starting your business, and going for an early gym session instead of warming the bed sheets with another fart all start between your ears.
You can supercharge your mind and life, but the ways to do so are often counterintuitive. I know because I’ve trial-and-errored my way into making money doing what I love, spending my days on the beach, and building a fit and healthy body.
These seven extraordinary superpowers will help you lead an extraordinary life.
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2. Resist Groupthink So You Can Go After What Makes You Happy
Humans are easily fooled.
In a legendary experiment, Solomon Asch asked people to identify the shortest line out of four shown on a projector. The twist: All but one subject were part of the experiment, first identifying the correct lines, then naming the same wrong one a few rounds in. The result: The subject often conformed to public opinion despite it being obviously wrong.
One of the cards used in the Solomon Asch experiment, with the reference line on the left side and the comparison lines on the right. | Licensed under Wikimedia commons
This phenomenon is called Groupthink in psychology and applies to everything in life.
When I thought about quitting my studies and selling everything to travel the world as a full-time writer, people told me I was crazy.
I still did it.
Now, I’ve met many who told me it would be insane to go back to a stable, settled life.
“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to reform, pause or reflect.”
— Mark Twain
You are an individual. What makes others smile won’t make your happiness hormones fire like Gatlin guns. If you always conform to the group, you’ll hold yourself back.
Think for yourself and be brave enough to do what you think is right.
2. Learn To Adopt Different Realities To Skyrocket Your Social Skills
What you think is reality actually isn’t.
You look at events through you-colored glasses. Climate change, politics, falling in love — we all have different views on the same topics. It’s your perspective that determines your reality.
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
— Dr. Wayne Dyer
Humans are complex. I often ask myself “why the fuck does somebody do or say that?” When I take their perspective, I usually find an answer.
People act according to their agenda — they want to avoid hurt, gain pleasure, or make themselves seem like a hero.
Understanding their motives and perspective is the key to better interactions and all the benefits that come from them, like friendships, dates, and business opportunities.
Humans are social animals, so master your social skills.
3. Delay Instant Gratification So You Can Act Despite Being Afraid, Lazy, or Tired
There’s a simple difference between winners and losers.
Winners keep going when life gets tough. They push through the discomfort, pain, and fear. They delay instant gratification.
In a world of instant messaging, same-day deliveries, live streams, and one-minute microwave meals, we’ve forgotten how to delay.
“We seem to demand instant everything, including instant solutions to our problems. It was meant to be that life would be a challenge. To suffer some anxiety, some depression, some disappointment, even some failure is normal.”
— Boyd K. Packer
It doesn’t matter how afraid, lazy, or tired you feel. These are just emotions, not a 200lbs MMA fighter standing in your way. I’ve been on a crazy strict diet for a bodybuilding competition for months and started my business working 80 hours a week despite my emotions telling me to quit both. It’s possible.
You can hit the gym one more time, read that book, or say no to donuts, porn, and Netflix.
All it takes is to delay the gratification for ten minutes. Once you do, you’ll realize it’s not that bad. You can do another ten.
Then, you just need to keep going.
4. Respond Instead of Reacting So Others Can’t Control You
Most people don’t understand the connection between thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Emotions ignite thoughts. Thoughts also ignite emotions. But both can ignite action.
When your spouse drives you nuts, you have two options.
You can react and scream in anger. Or you can respond and acknowledge your anger, take a deep breath, and answer calmly.
“When you react, you are giving away your power. When you respond, you are staying in control of yourself.”
— Bob Proctor
One will get you where you want to. The other one gets you where other people and external events push you.
Your boss, coworkers, partner, kids, and mother-in-law — they can all play you like a fiddle if all you do is react.
Acknowledge your feelings. Give them the space they need. But respond with rationale.
5. Take Radical Responsibility for Your Life to Make Change Happen
Life often gives you shit you didn’t ask for — sometimes in a literal sense.
Last year, someone emptied his bowels next to our front door. Some weeks later, a car hit me while I was riding my bike. A few months after, the dishwasher broke and spilled muddy remnants all over the kitchen floor like a swamp monster with diarrhea.
“While not everything that happens in your life may be your fault, it is always your responsibility.”
— Mark Manson
If you don’t take ownership, you won’t get anywhere because nobody will change your job, work on your relationship, or fix your problems for you — you have to do it yourself.
I use these three questions to take responsibility when shit hits the fan.
“What can this teach me?”
“What is within my control?”
“How can I improve the situation?”
Take responsibility for every area of your life, no matter how unfair it may seem.
You are the only one who can save yourself.
6. Say No to Overchoice so You Can Focus on What Matters
We live in an abundant world, but this isn’t always a good thing.
Choosing between eight different Netflix shows, Tinder matches, and delivery services sounds great, but comes with a hidden cost.
When my writing got in front of more eyeballs, people invited me for collaborations, podcasts, and interviews. One even asked me to give tips for sugar daddies. Yeah, you read that right.
I turned most of them down because of the hidden opportunity cost — every hour I spent on these endeavors was one I couldn’t spend on writing.
“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”
— Warren Buffett
Figure out what matters to you, makes you happy, and improves your life the most. Focus on that. Say no to all other temptations, opportunities, and shiny objects.
Learn to say no when it matters.
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7. Don’t Take Life Too Seriously, It Will Help You Through The Darkest Moments
I have a very fucked-up humor — sometimes it’s as dark as a baby fresh out of the oven.
People often choose to take offense. They think some things are too serious to joke about. Maybe they’re right.
But what they don’t understand is that life isn’t as serious as we make it.
You’re born. You die. Enjoy the time in between. It’s not that hard — except sometimes it is.
My grandma had to go through chemotherapy twice, losing hair while waking up in excruciating pain. My uncle fell asleep at the wheel and died in a crash, leaving behind his wife and a young boy. My grandpa suffered from dementia so badly he stopped recognizing his family and peed himself.
The thing that helped us when nothing else did was to joke about it.
“Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it.”
— Bill Cosby
Humor puts a smile on your face that makes your teeth shine through the dark.
So crack a joke about how fucked up the situation is. It helps you breathe for a moment. Sometimes, that’s all you need to keep going.
Don’t take life too seriously — nobody’s getting out alive anyway.
CONTRIBUTED BY Moreno Zugaro
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