🌼If You’re Chronically Unhappy, You’re Probably Guilty Of These Habits(HIGHLY RECOMMENDED)
Give up them up to be happier
Unhappiness is a habit problem.
If you’re constantly feeling sad and miserable, one of the best places to start is re-evaluating your habits to see how they might be contributing to your negative state of mind.
In this article, I have outlined five such habits that are mostly likely to be responsible for feeling unhappy.
You Compare Yourself to Others
Most chronically unhappy people are that way not because they’re unsuccessful or not doing the best they can in life. It’s usually because they’re in the habit of constantly comparing themselves to others.
In these days of social media, we’re bombarded daily with photos of our friends who appear to be “killing it.” They share their jobs, graduations, weddings, and other achievements.
Then, you might look at them and think, “Wow, I wish I was doing as well as she is.”
But the truth is you’re doing better than most and you’re never going to be happy if you allow other people’s highlight reels to make you feel less about your own accomplishments.
When you compare yourself to others, you diminish your efforts and achievements and start putting yourself under pressure to keep up with those you feel are better than you. This can be a major source of stress, anxiety, and unhappiness.
If you want to be happy, give up the habit of comparing yourself to anybody. You’re only in competition with yourself. So, focus on making your current self better than your past self.
You’re a Perennial Negative Thinker
It’s nearly impossible to feel happy if you’re pessimistic in your outlook on life. And it’s not hard to see why.
Life’s full of ups and downs. A vital part of being able to go through the “downs” without giving up is knowing that you can get back to the “ups.”
But if you have a habit of thinking negatively, looking at the bad side of every situation, and always expecting the worst, it will rub off on your mood.
And several studies have shown that a pessimistic outlook on life can lead to a strong feeling of anxiety, depression, and unhappiness.
You Worry Too Much
Dale Carnegie once said that “It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you’re doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It’s what you think about.”
One of the main reasons why you might be feeling unhappy is because you’re always worrying.
Worrying occupies your thoughts with imaginary problems about the future that might not even happen. This creates unnecessary internal turmoil that disrupts your peace of mind.
If you’re always worrying, you’ll always feel paralyzed and fearful, which can prevent you from thinking clearly and taking action.
“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them have never happened.”
— Mark Twain
You Don’t Know How to Make Friends
Feeling unhappy can also result from the habit of not being able to build meaningful social connections with people with whom we can spend time, talk, laugh, and play.
Friendship can bring joy into our lives. Several studies demonstrate that having friends can improve our physical and mental health, as well as our overall well-being.
Being unhappy comes with a lot of negativity and bad energy, which can make people withdraw from you. When this happens, that state spiral of unhappiness can get even deeper.
You Find it Hard to Let Go of Grudges
The habit of harboring grudges and not letting go cause unhappiness.
Some people have a hard time moving on from a hurtful past and can’t easily forgive someone who had done them wrong.
Instead, they keep on ruminating on the events, believing that by harboring grudges they will somehow harm the person they’re mad at.
But the truth is that holding grudges only ends up making you angrier and more resentful.
Forgiveness is critical to happiness, health, and well-being. When you let go and forgive, it doesn’t mean putting yourself in a position to be hurt by the same person over and over again.
It’s simply you acknowledging what the person did wrong and choosing to let go of the anger and pain so that you can create space in your heart to be truly happy and live optimally.
Recap: If you’re always unhappy, you’re probably guilty of these habits
Constantly feeling unhappy can be down to these habits:
Comparing yourself to others.
You’re a perennial negative thinker.
You worry too much.
You don’t know how to build social connection.
You find it hard to let go of grudges.
CONTRIBUTED BY Victor Mong
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