🌼4 Social Skills To Easily Build New Connections & Become A Master Networker(HIGHLY RECOMMENDED)
#2: To be interesting, be interested
You’ve probably heard one of these classic sayings:
“You are the average of the five people you associate with most.”
“Your network is your net worth.”
“Who you surround yourself with is who you become.”
And there’s a big truth in each of these sayings.
The people you surround yourself with can have an enormous influence on your life — especially when it comes to doing business.
That’s why the art of building relationships is one of the most valuable skills to learn.
In this article, we’ll look at four social skills from the all-time classic How To Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie to help you build new connections more easily.
Be Genuinely Interested
As Dale Carnegie wrote, “You can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
By showing a genuine interest in others, we demonstrate that we value them and their opinions, which can help to build trust and strengthen our relationships.
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“To be interesting, be interested.” — Dale Carnegie
But most people let their egos impede making new connections.
Rather than showing genuine interest and curiosity in others, they’re too occupied with wanting to look important themselves.
But rather than showing off, it’s usually more effective to ask questions, listen actively, and show a sincere desire to understand the person in front of you.
Give More Than You Take
Many people think about networking to gain something from others, which is the absolute worst way to go about it.
Instead of thinking about what you could gain from someone, think about what you offer to someone.
How you could be of value
How you could help someone achieve their goals
How you could support someone on their journey
By taking this approach, you’ll make genuine connections and build life-long friendships.
As Dale Carnegie said, “The rare individual who unselfishly tries to serve others has an enormous advantage.”
In my personal experience, the more freely you give and serve, the more you’ll get in return in the most unexpected ways.
Remember Names + Personal Interests
When someone introduces themselves to you, make it a priority to remember their name and — if they share it — their personal interests, hobbies, or goals.
The more you remember about someone, the more impressed they’ll be. They’ll feel important, seen, and recognized.
“A person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” – Dale Carnegie
Besides, within a few minutes of meeting someone, 90% of people have already forgotten everything about the person they just met.
So simply by remembering someone’s name (and especially their interests, goals, etc.) you’ll instantly stand out among the crowd.
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Give Sincere And Specific Praise
“There is one all-powerful, almost magical force that you can wield in your personal and business life, and that is the force of sincere appreciation,” says Dale Carnegie.
Sincere praise is one of the most powerful ways to build deeper connections. It makes the other person feel truly seen and valued.
As a general rule, the more specific the praise, the more impact it will make.
Your business is really awesome → You can really see the attention to detail you put into your products
You look great → Your suit has a perfect fit and the color really complements your skin tone
Good job with that customer → You handled that difficult customer with so much patience and professionalism, it made a huge difference
Specific praise shows that we truly recognize someone’s effort, which makes the other person feel seen and valued.
Contributed by Jari Roomer
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