🌼7 Beliefs You Need To Throw Away To Have A Better Life
Life is not static. It is fluctuating. So is our belief. It can be static, grow, and change.
What is your personal belief system?
What we believe makes us who we are. It is called mindset, core values, self-image, etc. These things usually result from our experiences and circumstances.
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Life is not static. It is fluctuating. So is our belief. It can be static, grow, and change. Some beliefs are good to keep as part of our identity and to protect us. But some beliefs may not be good and need to change. It needs to adapt to our current life situation and the dream we want to achieve.
Here are some examples of beliefs you need to change to have a better life in 2023:
1. The thought of being too young or too old
Have you ever thought that you are too young or too old to start something? This is a mind trap. No one is too old or too young to start anything.
For decades of my life, I had that feeling every year. Until I met someone who is older and younger than me starting something. Be it a new career, study, a business, exercise, learning new skills, etc.
Some of the world’s greatest discoveries begin late in life. For example, Charles Ranlett Flint founded IBM at the age of 61. And Julia Child published Dominating the Art of French Cooking when she was 50.
“People are able, at any time of their life, to do what they dream.” — Paulo Coelho
2. The mindset that you can control everything and all situations.
Do you like and want to control everything? How do you react in situations that are beyond your control? Do you get angry when something happens that you did not expect?
No one in this world can be in control of everything. We can plan and make a decision. But sometime unexpected things will happen that are beyond our control. The situation in 2020 gives us one of the greatest examples in human history.
“Stop trying to control the uncontrollable.” ― Frank Sonnenberg
3. Validation, acceptance, and the need to be like by others
Have you ever thought that you need the acceptance of others before you start anything? You don’t have to wait for that. If you know why you’re doing what you’re doing and if you had good intentions behind it, then just start.
You don’t have to be liked by others, because not everyone will understand the reason. Besides, your current stage of life and circumstances may be different from theirs. What you want in life and what they want may not be the same. So why are you still waiting?
“Do right, and public approval will follow; either the next hour or the next century.”- J. C. Lettsom
4. Waiting for the perfect moment
What are you waiting for? Are you waiting for the right moment, the right people, and the right mood? There is no perfect moment in life. Start with everything you have.
If we feel anxious and uncertain we will wait for the right moment. But it does not matter how well prepared you are when you start. There is always something unexpected or things you can predict. When you wait for the perfect time, you’re giving away control of your life.
Don’t wait for the perfect moment. Take the moment and make it perfect. — Unknown
5. Static and fixed mindset
Can you accept other people’s opinions and ideas? Even if they are different from your own? Do you feel threatened or challenged by other people’s success?
According to positivepsychology.com fixed mindset is one that assumes abilities and understanding are relatively fixed. Those with a fixed mindset may not believe that intelligence can be enhanced, or that you either “have it or you don’t” when it comes to abilities and talents.
Our minds have the ability and can grow at any age. As long we are willing to train them. Try to practice a growth mindset because your talent and intelligence can develop over time.
“The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways.” ―Robert Greene, Mastery
6. The feeling of not being good enough or undeserved
Have you ever felt that you are not good enough? Or do you feel that you do not deserve what you have or what other people give you? This reason may result from the feeling of low self-esteem and unworthiness. It can be affected by experiences, culture, and the way people around you have treated you.
Do you grow up in an environment that is full of criticism? If you have to lower yourself for everything you achieve, it can affect how you see yourself. There is no one in this world who can define what you deserve.
That is you, yourself. Your beliefs and your actions determine who you are. If you think you deserve the best, you will get the best.
“Givers need to realise that they deserve to be blessed by others as well. That in this life, as they give, they also need to be given. Whether it is love, money, or time.” ― ThandazoPerfectKhumalo
7. Other people know better than you
Do you think other people are better than you? or do you feel someone is richer, smarter, etc? You may think they have a great and wonderful life. But each of them had their own struggle that they never show to others. So stop thinking that their life is perfect.
No one in this world knows better than you what is going on in your life. Also about what you want and what you have experienced in life. They may help you, show you ways, and give you advice. But only you can make decisions for your life.
“I’m not better than you; I’m just different than you in a way that’s better.” — Russell Brand
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Our beliefs will determine who we are and how far we get in life. There is no perfect moment to start. Anyone who is ready to learn and start something can begin at any age. There may be some obstacles, but that does not mean it’s impossible. We can learn this from many stories of public figures who have made it.
A growth mindset is important to discover new ideas and ways to do things. And to get what you want, you must believe in yourself that you are good enough and deserve the best in life.
There will be someone who can help you on your way as a mentor, coach, teacher, or guru. But your life and success are not dependent on them. It is you who can make decisions and are responsible for the results.
Contributed by Dian Sage
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