🌼Ten Things You Can Do Immediately to Improve the Quality of Your Life
Like..right now. Today
It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you’re in motion.
The less time you spend thinking and the more time you spend doing, the closer you’ll get to the life you want.
Try one of these ideas on for size and just run with it. Report back to me when your life is awesome.
Say yes to all the good things you say no to and say no to all the bad things you say yes to
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How many potential opportunities have you said no to? Introducing yourself to someone new, taking a stab at that creative project or business, random experiences you could’ve had if you said yes to those invitations from your friends.
How many things do you say yes to even though you know you shouldn’t?
Requests you didn’t want to fulfill but did so out of obligation and guilt, vices you know you need to drop, or continuing to allow people in your life that you know you shouldn’t be there.
Just flip the equation and watch your life transform.
Accept, forgive, and reframe the past
First, accept what has happened. It is set in stone and there’s nothing you can do to change it. Instead of trying to bury your past transgressions and traumas, feel them fully so you can let them go.
Next, forgive yourself and forgive others (to the extent you can). To forgive yourself, understand that you were doing the best you could at the moment with the mental paradigm you were in.
For others, understand that bitterness towards them does nothing but make you feel bad. Last, re-frame the past.
You can’t change what happened, but you can change what it means to you. A useful frame? Look at everything that has happened so far as something that happened for you instead of something that happened to you.
Stand up straight
This is both a literal and metaphorical piece of advice. Stop walking around with your shoulders hunched over.
If you remain hunched, you can hide and you can avoid some pain, but then you’ll never get to experience the world fully.
It’s a coping mechanism that feels safe but ultimately destroys your confidence. Remember, you can’t have one without the other. Confidence and vulnerability are inexplicably tied to each other.
Live your dream right now
In the book The Way of The Superior Man, the author suggests trying to do what you’d do in your dream life, right now, even if you only have a small amount of time to do it.
Ask yourself, what would you do during the day if someone waved a magic wand and gave you the life you dreamed of?
With whatever time and resources you have right now, try getting as close to that experience as possible to see what it feels like. Doing this shows you that you’re capable of having it.
Think about dying
Steve Jobs has a famous quote:
“For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’ And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.”
I’m sure you’d change a lot of things in your life if you knew it’d be over soon. All of a sudden you wouldn’t care about grinding and stressing for money. You’d be less afraid to take risks. You’d start doing all of those items on your list that you’ve continued to put in the ‘eventually’ pile. None of the ‘five regrets of the dying’ had anything to do with career success.
Often, they regretted working too hard on their careers and not spending enough time with the people they loved. Most of the regrets were about the way they interact with others — not expressing their true feelings enough, not being brave enough to be their authentic selves around others, and not staying in touch with the people that mattered.
All of the regrets boiled down to wasting too much time on the wrong things.
Stop focusing on what you want
Instead, focus on who you are. Remember, you attract who you are not what you want. Most people focus too directly on their desires and it creates needy energy that keeps them from getting it.
If instead, you just focused on becoming the type of person who deserves what you want, you’d attract it into your life. All success is a byproduct. If you had the attitude that what you want would come to you eventually if you just lived the right way, it would come. This indirect method works much better than coveting success.
Go for (really) long walks
First off, walking is an easy way to start exercising that pretty much anyone can do. Second, walking just seems to have this magical effect on your disposition and mental clarity.
If you’re struggling with something, you’ll gain some sort of insight into the situation by going for a really long walk. Or even if you don’t have something on your mind, you can enjoy being in the present moment and experiencing nature.
There’s a piece of you that you never get to access if you don’t take time to both enjoy the present moment and be in motion. Walking creates a different effect than sitting still in meditation.
Explore your intellectual curiosity
It doesn’t matter what medium you choose: books, podcasts, YouTube videos, whatever. Start learning about things that are interesting to you. You don’t need a specific reason to do so.
You don’t need to do it for the sake of self-improvement. Just do it for the sake of doing it. Exploring what fascinates you helps you rediscover that love for learning that may have been beaten out of you during your schooling years.
These curiosities don’t have to lead to a career, but they certainly can.
Find a tiny area of your life to take control over
Admiral William McRaven wrote a best-selling book about…making your bed.
Sometimes, when your life seems totally out of control, it feels overwhelming to find something to tackle and work on.
That’s where setting the bar really really really low comes in. If you hate your job, have a bunch of anxiety, are out of shape, feel lost, and feel like your life is spinning out of control, it might be hard to just turn everything around in a snap. But, you can clean your room. You can have one tiny area of your life that you have totally dialed in.
Once you have one thing dialed in, you can start to focus on others.
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Focus on other people instead of yourself
Focusing on others can alleviate your anxiety and help you become more confident, useful, and better at interacting with the world as a whole. If you have social anxiety, focus on how other people feel instead of how you feel. Stop worrying about what to say and listen intently. Get curious about others and they’ll think you’re interesting.
Instead of worrying about how you can become successful, focus on making the lives of other people better and you’ll become successful.
If you stepped out of the door every day and focused on how you could make others feel better, how you could make every situation better off than the way you found it, and how you could make an impact on others instead of worrying about how they’d impact you, the self-confidence you’ve been searching for would come to you just like that.
Contributed by Ayodeji Awosika
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